November Melancholia II: how to navigate it?

Ah, November. Nature descends into a melancholic silence, and the sun's rays struggle to pierce the grey veil of clouds. During this time of year, many of us are visited by a sense of melancholy, and our relationships become even more vital than usual.

Psychologists suggest that November melancholia is a natural response to the changing seasons and the shortening days. With decreased sunlight, our moods and energy levels can dip. However, melancholy can also be a reflection of deeper emotional experiences.

This introspective period can bring a sense of sadness, fatigue, and a longing for connection.  But rather than viewing melancholia as something to be avoided, we can choose to embrace it as an opportunity for growth and deeper understanding, both individually and within our relationships.

How can I navigate November melancholia?

Acknowledge and Accept: Don't resist the feelings of sadness or introspection. Allow yourself to feel, to experience, to sit with the emotions that arise. This acknowledgment is the first step towards navigating them.

Take care of  Yourself: Prioritize rest, nourish your body with wholesome foods, and engage in gentle movement. A walk in nature, a cozy evening with a good book, or a soothing bath can be powerful balms for the soul.

Maybe you can Unleash Your Creative Spirit? Express yourself through art, music, writing, or any form of creative expression that resonates with you. Creativity can be a powerful outlet for emotions and a source of renewed inspiration.

See the Light Within: Even in the darkest of days, there are glimmers of light to be acknowledged again. Light your favourite candle, take an inspiring book, cover with warm blanket, focus on gratitude, on the things that bring you joy, and on the strength that resides within you.

Reach Out for Support: If you feel overwhelmed by melancholy, don't hesitate to seek professional guidance. A therapist or counselor can provide support and tools to navigate these emotions.

How can we navigate November melancholia in our relationships?

In relationships, November melancholia can manifest in various ways:

• Heightened Sensitivity: Partners may become more attuned to each other's mood swings, more easily offended or prone to tears.

• Increased Need for Intimacy: The cold weather and gloomy atmosphere encourage a search for warmth and closeness. There's a desire to spend more time together, to cuddle, to talk.

• Communication Challenges: Melancholia can hinder communication, leading to withdrawal and a reluctance to share feelings.

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Still, you can try a bit more and...

• Be open and honest: Talk about your feelings, share your experiences. Honest and open communication helps to create closeness and an atmosphere of trust.

• Make time for each other: Find time to be together, even if it's just a quiet evening by the fireplace or enjoying tea in a cozy café.

• Seek out shared activities: Engage in activities that bring you both joy. This could be cooking together, reading a book, watching a movie, or attending a lecture.

• Remember your own needs. Make time for rest, healthy eating, and physical activity.

• Seek professional help: If feelings of melancholy persist and interfere with daily life, seek help from a therapist or counselor.

  
  

This November, embrace your senses this season offers, and always remember - Your renewed relationship with yourself and others can become a luminous shelter from the autumn blues...